Give Family Experiences vs. Stuff

Written by Jonathan on . Posted in Blog, Challenging, Family Devo Tips, Ideas, leaving a legacy

A friend of ours sent this link to us and I wanted to forward it on as well.  With it, she said, “Kids won’t remember their best day of TV or video games, but they will remember family times, family events, family vacations, family projects, family ministry, etc… My Christmas encouragement to you is for you to plan to use your time and money to create meaningful family experiences rather than just giving lots of stuff. ”

She is so right!  There is great insight in this article about giving experiences. 46 Ways to Give Experiences Instead of Stuff and Why.

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I want to add the importance of spending time together experiencing God’s Word.  Nothing has helped our children enjoy God’s Word more than the Family Bible Library.  I know this sounds like a commercial, but having family devotions with the FBL has helped our children experience God’s Word for over a decade. People would ask us how our kids know so much scripture.  FBL is the answer.  I can’t help but share what I know works for us and many other families.   (Sample below.)

How much are you going to spend this Christmas giving your family something that deepens their faith over the next decade?  Give experiences and not just stuff.

Helping you have homes devoted,

Jonathan

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This was sent in a previous email:
Click here for a “thankful” devotion you can use as a family. I wrote some personal notes on the pages as well.  It’s a Bible passage (Luke 17: 11-19) in story form with some questions to ask.  There isn’t any prep or crafts to organize (although reading it through once helps you know which questions are best for your family.)

Find a time, like at a meal or before bed.  Read the story with your children (even teenagers) and close with a thank you prayer: “God, I thank you for ___________.”

This story is taken from a resource called the Family Bible Library which we have used for 14 years.  It’s a fantastic 8 volume set that spans Genesis to Revelation.  To learn more about the FBL, click HERE. (You may want to think about purchasing it as a family Christmas present that will bless your family spiritually for years to come.)

Using Texts To Connect With Your Kids

Written by Jonathan on . Posted in Blog, Challenging, Dads, Heart Connections With Your Kids, Ideas, Tech Stuff, Texting

How many of us have shouted orders to our kids via a text? Something like…

  • “Don’t FORGET your homework!!!”
  • “When you get home: let out the dog, have a snack, clean your room, because I can’t see the floor! Love you.
  • “NO friends over!”
  • “Be home by 9!”
  • “BE QUIET and go to sleep! (Sent from your bed; they are across the house in theirs.)”

Me too.  Guilty.

I have made it a priority to connect with my daughter with at least one encouraging text a day.

Can you imagine if every time our kids receive a text from us, their first thought was, “I wonder what encouraging thing my dad is going to say now?”  What if they looked forward to receiving our texts?

Let’s send at least one encouraging, uplifting, inspiring, funny text every day.  There just isn’t a reason not to use this tool to connect with our kids.

As a reminder, put it in your calendar to repeat every day. (Yes. I do this. Don’t tell my daughter.)

Text them stuff like:

  • “You did great at…!”
  • “Hope you do fantastic on your exam. Praying for you!”
  • “Hang in there. The day is almost over.”
  • An inspirational scripture verse. “Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.” Proverbs 13.24 (Just kidding.)
  • “I thought I would encourage you with a reminder that you have the best dad in the whole world! Love ya.”  (With crazy selfie.)
  • “Can’t wait to hear about your day. Love you.”
  • “Excited to spend time with you this weekend.”
  • “Is this a good weekend to wash my car?”

I ran across a picture of my daughter on my pc yesterday and I had this idea.  I brought the picture up on the screen.  Then I wrote adjectives that describe her on post-it notes and put them around the picture and texted it to her.  It only took a few minutes and it meant a lot to her.

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Our kids need our affirmation.  They don’t get a lot of praise for who they are outside our home, so let’s make sure they get it from those who love them the most.

Leave a comment below. I’d love your feedback.

Jonathan

5 Reasons To Pray Together As A Family

Written by Jonathan on . Posted in Blog, Dads, Encouragement, Ideas, leaving a legacy, Prayers, Praying Together

We say mealtime prayers and pray with our kids at bedtime, but do we gather the family to seek God and expect Him to answer?  Do we fervently seek God’s heart and will; praise Him, thank Him, ask for forgiveness, and pray for others and our needs?

The fact is the majority of church attending parents aren’t praying as families. George Barna’s research revealed that less than 10% of parents in the church pray together with their kids other than at mealtimes.*

Grandparents With Impact

Written by Jonathan on . Posted in Blog, Challenging, Grandparents, Heart Connections With Your Kids, Ideas, leaving a legacy

Many novels have been written about the mysteries and treasures surrounding Grandma and Grandpa’s house.  Whether it is in the attic or a long dark hallway with beckoning rooms, there is something special about the visits to the grandparents.  The food tastes better, the smells are sweeter, and the conversations more endearing.  On one visit to my grandparents, my sister and I found a closet at the end of the hall which aroused our curiosity.  The musty smell, the delicately stitched doilies, and the old treasures were a delight to explore.  In one box, I found a little green Bible with gold engraved letters.  It was just my size and it was my favorite color.  Grandmother gave it to me and I carried it with me everywhere I went.  God’s seed was sown.

3 Things Every Dad Should Do After Pulling In The Driveway (Part 3)

Written by Jonathan on . Posted in Blog, Dads, Encouragement, Ideas, leaving a legacy, Resources

3 things every dad#1. Find Mom. (click here for part 1.)

#2. Sit  (click here for part 2.)

#3. LEAD.  (Time: 15+)

Not like a drill sergeant.  Your family needs you to lead them to the heart of God; to be a family that faithfully follows Christ.

“As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24.15

As the father goes, so goes the family.  Our influence as dads is a mysterious wonder.  We (maybe I’m speaking for myself here) need reminding how our leadership (or lack of) impacts our family.  (Read this article I wrote of a compilation of dad stats.)

It is so easy to rely on vacations, cheering at sporting events and dropping them off church, for checking the box of being a good Christian dad.  There is so much more.

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